With This Ring, I Thee Wed

Ok… it happened. President Barack Obama has officially announced his position supporting same-sex marriages. The world is now in a frenzy— the news is playing around-the-clock coverage on voter response to his announcement, facebook statuses are going 40 posts strong in response to what is right and wrong, and believe it or not, the world never stops its rotation.


Because its one giant step for the homosexual community…

and outside of that, it doesnt REALLY change anything about heterosexual life.


It baffles me how many club-hoppin, woman-beatin, glass-of-champagne-with dinner drinkin, Bible-thumpin, holier-than-thou Christians have surfaced to rebuke this supposed “demon” in Jesus’ name. Ive read comments about how homosexuality is a sin and how much we as CHRISTIANS shouldnt support sin from people who just this past Monday were at King of Diamonds– a STRIP CLUB– watching scantily clad, half-nude women fight for money. Where is the Jesus in that? Even those who just 6 months to a year ago were basking in the beautiful ambiance of pre-marital sex and defiling the marriage bed are now turbo-charged, Bible-quoting, I-know-my-God, Christians pointing the finger of judgement. Where is Jesus in THAT?

Im no religious fanatic, nor do I claim to know EVERYTHING there is to know about Christ and what it takes to enter heaven’s gates— but one thing I am 100% certain of is that I AM NOT CHRIST. Neither are you. Period. Christ came to earth ONCE… died on a cross for ALL of our sins… resurrected… and returned to His throne in heaven. Unless that applies to anyone reading this… I think its safe to say you are in NO position to judge anyone.

I read one post about people finding the gray area in situations where its only black and white…. right and wrong. As we try to force OUR beliefs down the throats of those who do not share them, we lose focus of the truth that what is right and wrong is open for interpretation. Sure we claim to believe in the same Christ but what YOUR church believes and what mine believes could be totally seperate entities. A prime example, the church I was raised in ((House of God CHurch)) does NOT believe in drinking wine or any semblance thereof for Communion. Symbolizing his blood, we drink pure water. The Bible teaches that as Jesus was pierced in His side on the cross, water flowed from Him— voila. However, there are MANY churches who drink wine, grape fruit, apple cider, etc etc in semblance of Christ’s blood. Possibly because Christ turned water to wine— which is an entirely different post that will definitely appear in the near future! But the point is, we believe in the same God…. the same Jesus…. buuuuuuut there are distinct differences in our religious principles and practices.

People are saying Christians need to stand up for what they believe in and prohibit same sex marriage from taking place because apparently it’ll ruin furure generations. There are several laws passed which conflict with Christianity but for some odd reason, which isnt very odd, Christians are all ready to “march on Washington” for Obama’s supposedly treacherous actions. There is supposed to be a seperation of CHURCH and STATE. President Obama is not just the President for Christians. He is the freakin’ leader of the free world! Everyone is free to pursue their own religion, believe in their own God… Christian, Catholic, Buddhist, Muslim… whatever. Regrdless of what laws are passed, we still have the OBLIGATION to teach our children the right way— right according to OUR beliefs. As they grow in Christ, they will learn for themselves. Just because its legal to drink, Im not gonna teach my children about margaritas or Hen and coke. Just because same-sex marriage is legalized, Im not gonna cease telling the story of Adam and Eve. The ONLY reason I believe these die-hard Christians are so adamant about the sanctity of marriage and ensuring same sex couples arent allowed the privilege to do so is because this is the ONE sin they are not participating in.

Christians lie, steal, kill, fornicate, commit adultery and everything else forbidden in the good book EXCEPT create their own versions of Soddom and Gomorrah. It is easy to throw stones at a sinner whose sins you do not share. We’re not protesting about the law allowing individuals to drink at the age of 21— even though Leveticus 10:9 clearly states “DO NOT DRINK WINE, NOR STRONG DRINK LEST YE DIE.” Where’s the million man march for that blasphemous law? We’re not raising hell because women are allowed to get abortions. Hell, us Christians are all for the Pro-Choice argument even though our personal beliefs are totally against murder.

We are a judgemental bunch… and that is how we drive people AWAY from Christ. Despite what laws are made and regardless of the choices people make sexually or otherwise… it is NOT our position to judge them. We are supposed to be like Christ. We can preach the Gospel… spread the Word… and do all the things that promote and build up the Kingdom of God WITHOUT tearing down the next person. We cannot, with clear concious, deny human beings ANY rights simply because we feel that right should be limited to those of us with the same beliefs.

Do I support same-sex marriage? No. My Bible clearly states it is between a MAN and a WOMAN— Adam and Eve. Period. Will I be protesting in favor of my beliefs? Absolutely not. It is not my position to condemn anyone. Honestly, I know heterosexual people who do not deserve to be married. The same Christian folk who read the same Bible I do speaking against divorce but are on their 4th marriage and President and Founder of the Divorce Ministry. These same Christian folk who are quick to condemn a woman for wearing pants to church… focusing on superficiality instead of spirituality.

The Bible tells us to love our neighbor… no, that does not mean you have to support their every decision. It does not even mean you have to agree with them. It says LOVE them. God LOVES us all and even though you are soooo holy to the naked eye, God sees and knows ALL of your shortcomings. He does not approve and accept your behaviour but he LOVES you anyway. This is the same manner we should treat EVERYONE.

One status message I read on FB— a loooooot deeper than my ramble… more fact then opinion… that I’d like to share is listed below:

from Ms Tyra…. It appears my excitement over history being made on May 9 when the first sitting President of the US declared that a minority, gay Americans, should no longer be treated as 2nd class citizens & should have the civil right to marry, was too much for them. Make no mistake: President Obama’s decision to publicly endorse gay marriage carries serious political risk, though also moral reward. Future generations will look back & wonder what took him so long. I don’t care about his reasons, as I know what he did took great personal courage & will come at a political price. For the millions of young gay Americans across this nation, their President’s words provide genuine hope that they will be the first generation to grow up with the freedom to fully pursue the American dream. Marriage—the promise of love, companionship, & family—is basic on the pursuit of that dream. Loving, committed same-sex couples across the country thank him for speaking up for justice & fairness. President Obama’s words remind us that marriage & equality are universal values that unite us all. I, like most of my friends, do not have a goal to follow in the footsteps of Larry King nor Elizabeth Taylor, who were each married (8) times. We do not want a Britney Spears 55-hour marriage to a childhood friend because she was in Las Vegas with nothing better to do. Nor do we desire to be like anti-gay marriage advocate Rush Limbaugh, who only recently married for the 4th time. He feels gay couples, some together 30-40 years, should not have the civil right to marry, because he claims “they are meaningless & will destroy the sanctity of marriage” – I am assuming his other 3 marriages were not meaningful. Same-sex marriages are fully recognized in Argentina, Belgium, Canada, the Netherlands, Norway, South Africa, Spain (large Catholic population here), & in Mexico City. I believe marriage is a relationship between 2 consenting adults – not animals, trees, children, etc. If a church or certain groups disapprove, that’s their right, but it is not their right to stop it. In this country, we do not have absolute majority rule. Rather majority rule is tempered by individual rights. Our constitutions provide the basis for these protections. The reason heterosexuals marry is not to establish legal status, allow joint filing of taxes, or protect each other in medical decision making. They marry because it is the ultimate expression of a persons love for another. Marriage is a commitment that says – I love you so much that I want to live the rest of my life with you. I want to share the ups & downs, forsake all others & be together until death do us part. Some people talk about living wills & other legal contracts that can give us essentially the same rights as a married couple. If that is the case, why don’t all heterosexual couples use these legal maneuvers instead of marriage? Many people seeking to condemn gay people point to the Bible & the Book of Leviticus, where we read that men lying with men is an abomination. However, they conventiently leave off other verses found in the same book of Leviticus that are equally challenging. Leviticus also tells us that eating shrimp & lobster is an abomination. That a person should not wear material woven of 2 kinds of material. In Paul’s letter to the community in Corinth we read, ‘For it is shameful for a woman to speak in church….’ And yet these words have not prevented Christian denominations from ordaining women. If some choose to cherry-pick from their Bible, why not include these? DEUTERONOMY 22:13-21 / If it is discovered that a bride is not a virgin, the Bible demands that she be executed by stoning immediately. DEUTERONOMY 22:22 / If a married person has sex with someone else’s husband or wife, the Bible commands that both adulterers be stoned to death. MARK 10:1-12 / Divorce is strictly forbidden in both Testaments, as is remarriage of anyone who has been divorced. LEVITICUS 18:19 / The Bible forbids a married couple from having sexual intercourse during a woman’s period. If they disobey, both shall be executed. MARK 12:18-27 / If a man dies childless, his widow is ordered by biblical law to have intercourse with each of his brothers in turn until she bears her deceased husband a male heir. DEUTERONOMY 25:11-12 / If a man gets into a fight with another man and his wife seeks to rescue her husband by grabbing the enemy’s genitals, her hand shall be cut off. Who decides where we draw the line in the sand – why are we to live by some verses in the Bible yet not others? Try to imagine where we would be if other civil rights issues where not challenged and ultimately changed: 1840: Don’t like slavery? Sorry. 1910: So you think women should be able to vote? Sorry. 1950: You think black children should have access to the same quality of education as white children? Sorry. 1960: A black man & a white woman getting married? Sorry. Why is it that a convicted imprisoned heterosexual murderer can get married, but a loving, committed gay couple who have been together for years cannot? Even a child molester can marry, any convicted criminal for that matter, as long as they are heterosexual? Some of you may not know this, however, according to the Office of the General Counsel of the US General Accounting Office, there are 1,138 benefits the US government provides to legally married couples (male & female) & denies to non-married gay couples – here are just a few: at the CA STATE LEVEL: Assumption of Spouses Pension, Automatic Inheritance, Automatic Housing Lease Transfer, Bereavement Leave, Burial Determination, Child Custody, Crime Victims Recovery Benefits, Divorce Protection, Domestic Violence Protection, Exemption from Property Tax on Partners Death, Immunity from Testifying Against Spouse, Insurance Breaks, Joint Adoption, Joint Bankruptcy, Joint Parenting, etc. At the FEDERAL LEVEL: Sick Leave to Care for Partner, Access to Military Stores, Assumption of Spouses Pension, Bereavement Leave, Immigration Insurance Breaks, Medical Decisions on Behalf of Partner, Social Security Survivor Benefits, Tax Breaks, Veterans Discounts, Visitation of Partner in Hospital, or Prison. For those who think this is NOT a civil rights issue, in 1967, the Supreme Court said no state could prohibit mixed-race marriages because “marriage is one of the basic civil rights of man.” I believe marriage is a HUMAN & CIVIL right, not a heterosexual privilege. #Drops Mic

It is not my desire to change anyone’s perspective on homosexuality. You are entitled to YOUR belief. However, I pray you learn how to stand fast to your beliefs without FORCING them on others. Then and only then will you embody the full meaning of being a Christian.


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